You really want to do something, you don’t know what they will say, and you need or really want them to say yes

你真的想做点什么，你不知道他们会说什么，你需要或者真的想让他们说是

This category of ways to ask for permission are more assertive than the ones before. Instead of relying too much on what the other person might think of you, you are instead pushing them a little to go along with what you say. Most people will agree with you if you ask for permission using these sentences because they show that you are committed to the ideas already.

这类请求许可的方式比以前更加自信。你不是过分依赖别人对你的看法，而是让他们听你的话。如果你请求允许使用这些句子，大多数人都会同意你的观点，因为它们表明你已经致力于这些想法。

Unless they have a specific and strong reason to say no, you will likely get your way. However, this does not mean that people will be happy about agreeing, or that people will respect your authority. These questions are best used when you are the boss, or you are the one who should be making all the decisions.

除非他们有明确而有力的理由拒绝，否则你很可能会得逞。然而，这并不意味着人们会乐意同意，或者人们会尊重你的。当你是老板，或者你是应该做所有决定的人时，使用这些问题。

I think I’m going to… Is that okay?

我想我会…没事吧？

Saying that you think you are going to do something is a little gentler, and asking whether that would be okay is a great way to check what the other person will think of what you do. However, if you want to be more aggressive, you do not have to ask whether it is okay that you do something.

说你认为你将要做某事是有点温和，问这是否可以是一个很好的方式来检查别人会怎么看你做了什么。然而，如果你想更具攻击性，你不必问你做某事是否可以。

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I think I’m going to take my car to the shop tomorrow morning and then ride the bus to work. Is that okay? /I think I’m going to take two weeks for vacation starting next Monday. Is that okay? /I think I’m going to buy this piece of art for our living room. Is that okay? /I believe I will… Okay?

我想我明天早上开车去商店，然后坐公共汽车去上班。可以吗？/我想从下周一开始我要休假两周。可以吗？/我想我要为我们的客厅买这件艺术品。可以吗？/我相信我会…好吗？

Believing that you will do something is a little bit more assertive and sure than thinking that you will do something. Asking for permission this way shows that you pretty sure about what you want to do, and in some circumstances, may not actually care what the other person thinks. Sometimes, because of how sure you may sound about your decision, this question may come off as a little bit rude. To avoid this, make sure the okay that you ask at the end of the question doesn’t sound like it was added on just so you don’t sound rude.

相信自己会做某事比认为自己会做某事更有自信。以这种方式请求许可，表明你对自己想做的事情非常确定，在某些情况下，可能并不在乎对方的想法。有时候，因为你对自己的决定听起来很肯定，这个问题可能会显得有点粗鲁。为了避免这一点，确保你在问题的后问的“好”听起来不像是加上去的，这样你就不会显得粗鲁了。

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I believe I will try to finish the project before I go to sleep. Okay? /I believe I will have more time to pick up the dry cleaning and stop by the grocery store tomorrow after work. Okay? /I believe I will be better off traveling to Japan and staying longer than trying to add in a trip to China or South Korea as well. Okay? /I will… Is that alright? (Or, is it alright to…)

我相信我会在睡觉前完成这个项目。可以？/我相信明天下班后我会有更多的时间去干洗店买东西。可以？/我相信我去日本旅行和停留的时间比去中国或韩国旅行还要长。可以？/我会的…可以吗？（或者，可以…）

Similar to the above, asking for permission in this way shows that you have already made up your mind. If you add Is that alright? At the end, it shows that you are a little bit more sensitive.

与上述类似，以这种方式申请许可，说明你已经下定决心了。如果你再加上，可以吗？后，它表明你有点敏感。

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I will buy the cotton candy you want from the online store. Is that alright? /I will take out the trash tomorrow, so put the things that you don’t need in there before then. Is that alright? /I will be in New York City the second week of July. Is it alright to stay at your house during that time? /What would you say if I…?

我会从网上商店买你想要的棉花糖。可以吗？/我明天会把垃圾拿出来，所以在那之前把你不需要的东西放进去。可以吗？/七月的第二周我将在纽约。在这段时间呆在你家可以吗？/如果我…，你会怎么说…？

Out of all the ways to ask permission in this blog post, this is the one that is the most assertive. While this question does not outright say that you will do what you are thinking of doing regardless of what the other person says, it does show that you have already strongly made up your mind in favor of whatever it is that you want to do. You likely will not change your mind, even if the other person has something important and useful to say. Instead of asking permission, sometimes this question is used to warm someone up to the idea of something that you have already done. If someone asks you this, you can be suspicious about whatever idea they ask you about.

在这篇博文中，所有的请求许可的方式中，这是自信的一个。虽然这个问题并没有直截了当地说，不管对方说什么，你都会做你想做的事，但它确实表明，你已经下定决心支持你想做的事。你很可能不会改变主意，即使对方有重要和有用的话要说。有时候，这个问题不是征求别人的同意，而是用来让别人对你已经做过的事情产生好感。如果有人问你这个问题，你可能会怀疑他们问你的任何想法。

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What would you say if I sell my car and commit to using only rideshare apps when I need to get around? /What would you say if I dropped out of college to try out this idea that I have? /What would you say if I told you all that we would not be giving out Christmas bonuses this year because our company needs the money to invest somewhere else?

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